Quitting is a big topic that I have wanted to cover for a while. Our society has a very negative stigma around quitting. Popular phrases like “No one likes a quitter” and “Never ever ever give up” are embedded into our brains from a very early age. We learn to be persistent, never backing down despite the torment we endure in the process. We never learn it is okay to give up. Here is a scenario when quitting is the right choice.
1) When you give more than you get
In college I was a member of student government for three years. Working on the behalf of the campus community energized me with a deep sense of purpose. Involvement in student gov’t became a ingrained into my identity. At the end of my junior year I decided to quit. Why? The culture of organization turned into a dangerously toxic environment. Soon the heavy emotional toll outweighed the gratification I received from my commitment, so I left. Whether it is a job, club/organization, or relationship there should always be a certain level of reciprocation. If not- then leave. Otherwise you will end up exhausted from the constant drain of energy while receiving nothing in return.
Good indictors of when to quit: Constant stress, constant aniexty, frustration, anger, feelings of bitterness, feelings of resentment, feeling emotionally drained.
Quotes to remember:
“There was a time before and there will be a time after” – Me
― Osayi Emokpae Lasisi,