A few months ago I stumbled upon a revelation. Before anything else, all healthy relationships require mutual respect. Respect is not only a requirement. It is a nonnegotiable condition.
This concept holds more depth when I ask a few simple questions:
- Does this person respect me?
- Would someone who respects me act this way?
- Do I respect this person?
Answered critically and in full honesty these three questions help determine the quality of all your current relationships. Together we can examine the thought process behind each question.
Does this person respect me? – Abstract terms like respect hold a variety of meanings. Here are additional conversions this question raises: Is this person treating me the way I should be treated? Do I feel comfortable and secure around this person? Do they value me as a friend/spouse/co-worker and do I feel genuinely valued?
Would someone who respects me act this way? – This question is critical because people deceive with their words and become exposed by their actions. The old saying “Actions speak louder than words” holds wisdom here. Someone doing disrespectful actions towards you does not respect you.
Do I respect this person? – Lastly, some self-reflection is necessary. Respect is a two-way street. If you cannot respect the individual in the relationship, why are you in that relationship? A good relationship strives for reciprocity between both people. Anything less is unfair to you and that person.
Hope this helps. If you have any comments leave them below – Barry